Flirting is something many people struggle with and are convinced they are unable to do. The thing is, it’s not rocket science. If you follow some simple procedures you will shock yourself in how much success you can yield without implementing significant effort.
Flirting is an art and an important social tool by which you can impress anyone. Flirting is often done to establish a connection and to measure the interest of others in that connection. Not everyone flirts to establish a romantic or sexual connection but most people do it just for that, to establish a sexual or romantic relationship.
Flirting isn’t easy and it comes with its own challenges. There are different methods that people follow and use to flirt but all of them include pretty much the same thing, showing your interest in the person.
In this article, I will go over a few simple hacks that will up your game exponentially for both in-person and online flirting.
1. Eye Contact
For in-person flirting, arguably the most important practice you can implement is eye contact. Looking someone in the eye shows you are a confident individual who knows what he or she is doing. If you avoid eye contact, you will make the person you are flirting with think you are insecure or it might even confuse them as it sends an unclear signal.
The first thing that you should do is always try to make eye contact. There is no better and easiest way to start flirting. You can start looking into someone’s eyes and instantly you’re flirting. There are some limits to making eye contacts:
When making eye contact takes time to break eye contact to keep things from getting weird and intense. When you’re looking at someone for a long time then you’re basically staring at them and this may make the other person uncomfortable.
Don’t stare but small glances once in a while won’t hurt and will actually help your case.
Smiling is another way by which you’re making the other person feel comfortable. It is natural to smile around someone that you like. When you’re talking then smiling while talking will help your case but remember that don’t overdo it. Grinning won’t help your case, a simple, subtle, slow smile will do your case and while you’re making eye contact, you should toss in a smile to help your case.
3. Voice Change
Another powerful in-person hack is to change the volume of your voice: if you oscillate between excitement and calm depending on the topic, you will notice that the other person is subconsciously receptive and will mimic your tone. Body language is also a great tool for flirting: if you mimic the way the other person is positioned and how they are visibly expressing themselves, they will feel a subconscious connection to you.
4. Be confident
When it comes to both in-person and online flirting, a great way to show the other person you are a worthy companion is by discussing topics you are confident about. Try to avoid random topics where you lack expertise. Another highly underrated flirting method is directness: by being direct and stating what’s on your mind in a clear and compelling manner, you will show the person you are not afraid to be vulnerable, which will inherently, make them trust you.
5. Initiating The Conversation
Initiating a conversation with the person that you’re interested in will help you. Introduce yourself, start a good conversation, find a common ground and talk about your interest. Gauge the response and if the response is pleasant then continue the conversation as things are going good for you, however, if the response isn’t that pleasant and the other person does not look interested then he/she is probably not interested in you.
Especially with online flirting, a great way to flirt is by ending the conversation at a climax: the art of timing is essential to flirting. By leaving the person hanging at a moment where things have gotten really juicy and interesting, you have psychologically caused them to crave the next interaction.
7. Body Language
When you are talking with someone then your body language also shows your intentions. Non-verbal cues can tell a lot more about your intentions than your words and as the saying goes, “Actions Speak Louder Than Words”. When you’re around someone then use positive body language and make the other person aware of your interest.
8. Break Off The Touch Barrier
If things are going well and you seem to hit it off then you should try breaking the touch barrier. If you are trying to break off the touch barrier then you should be careful that your contact and touches seem accidental. Avoid grasping hand or arm but instead accidentally touching them without them noticing will help. When you’re making physical contact then avoid making the other person feel uncomfortable.